(And advice to all nice guys)
(Inspired by the article “nice guys finishes last” by: Garrett Hols)
Well I truly appreciate your curiosity that you really want to read my perspective about the nice guys and assholes. Indeed I came across a lot of male friends, female friends, my own cousins and all those people in my vicinity. It’s amazing that assholes can get girls. Actually, because they are assholes at heart, but to meet girls they lavish their undying love; it’s an absurd pretence or a charade .They act until they get into what they’re after. Their prey are in illusions that they are in love with them, however when they realize what assholes their predators really are (because it’s hard to accept for them), they pretend like the asshole is really nice inside (What an irony).No matter how much the girls tries to change the assholes into a nice guy, but assholes will always be assholes.
Now here comes the entry of NICE GUYS, These insecure disheartened souls(girls) gets upset and goes to the nice guys to complain about their assholes(so-called boyfriends). But she claims to love the asshole… now this is where Mr.Garrett Hols theory begins. She doesn’t want to look like she is easy so she won’t dump the asshole right away, instead she will stay with the asshole. Girls are idiots (most of the times :P). They don’t realize that the nice guy has been there all along. He never had to pretend to be a good guy to get girls because he is naturally like that. Now here I comment who the hell wants the nice and perfect, then what role we have to play in life, because half of the time we are in a relationship we always spent time correcting them, and so it will be really monotonous to get into with a nice guy, after all every girls loves to do social service and therefore we people believe in correcting the wrong ones and giving away the world a pure and perfect society of NICE GUYS. (why we accept our fault and flaws :D :P ;) :X ???).
Girls don’t see nice guys for some reason or another. They look at the nice guy just a good friend, to whom they can tell their sad story to about their asshole boyfriend and can borrow a shoulder to cry( hehehe we are really mean at times). But the nice guy isn’t THAT naïve or inexperienced boss!! They also know how to convert problems into opportunities. He was trying to score with the girl he listens to all along.
But they ignore their core problem, which is that since he is a nice guy he keeps listening, and so for a girl there is nothing to do other than narrating and telling..talking, I wish they ever able to make them interesting enough to keep a pace with any girl, because I don’t think any girl disagree with me at this point,no girls want a finished & perfectly nice project,they want to look it nice with their own contribution to it . My piece of advice to all nice guys who are seeking a girl friend,” guys if you can’t develop anything interesting about yourself develop a bad habit which could be easily thrown out so that the girl you are looking forward to have something to do in your life and hence she became a messiah for you in their own dreams..EUREKA you get them.
We accept that we are attention seeker and why not there is a lot more interesting to get researched about girl’s behavior, Since girls get attached to things that pay attention to them, they think of the nice guy as a friend.They will never compliment them as you are hunk or hot ( we girls have a very different parameter to judge the hotness way apart from what guys judge upon)
Girls just want the emotional support. When they get the emotional support from the nice guy, they don’t need it from the asshole hence forth, so though girls believe in social service, if any nice guy wish to be in her crush list stop doing social service have an attitude hold it and flaunt it, that’s what girls look for.
According to Mr.G.hol, In most of the cases, the nice guy gets the shit end of the stick while the asshole gets all the action. Perhaps another reason why girls fall for the asshole is because assholes ignore the girl they are with. The women wonder, “Why isn’t he paying attention to me?” so they explore why. They poke and prod and get closer to the asshole. They start to get easier with each attempt to get closer. The asshole finally says, “I’ve let this beauty dangle long enough, time to boat this bass”. It is then he puts on his charade and the girl feels like she has won him… even thought all she has won is an asshole. Once you have gone down the path as a nice guy or a “listener” you can’t turn back. The girl will always go after the assholes because there are always nice guys there to listen. Once you realize that you are a “listener” you can’t do anything about it… just pack up and close shop.
Indeed in my perspective the mostly girls do not find nice guys a dating material (statement is subject to exceptions) and so they never will ever have a crush unless and until you become a little flawed, The girls won’t ever come to her sense and realize what an asshole her boyfriend is like in the movies… instead she will just switch to another asshole, and unless one stop being a nice guy, she will never go after her so called good friend (moral of the story take out your shell of being good listener, offer her apart of listening too, make her jealous too).
Women complain that there are no nice guys in the world. Right. They are obviously not looking hard enough because there are nice guys EVERYWHERE!!!! ( and its universal truth girls are little lazier in looking for their perfect man they fall mostly in love with the people in their vicinity)
Truth is also that Girls aren’t looking for nice guys…though they say they are,but they’re not. They are looking for the perfect asshole, but both you and me know that there is NO SUCH THING as the perfect asshole, I love all my friends and cousins however at times they can be assholes but they are caring and truly worthy people, similarly almost all girls have that you just need to provide them with an eye to realize that. All in all, the nice guy gets the shaft.
So now since I had given a lot of advice to my poor nice guy group I also have something to say to my own community of girls…To all the girls out there with boyfriends who think that their Boyfriends haven’t treat them with respect, that they never listen to them and that don’t care about them, I say this; look next to you. The guy that has been standing next to you the whole time is the guy you have been looking for. He is what you want your asshole to be like. He knows more about you than you know about yourself… because he has listened to it all. So go ahead girls he is the man whom you were looking for all your life and if you ignore this paragraph, you might keep on looking for him, for rest of your lives.
(To my dear nice guys you people are amazing and I did it for all of you, be what you are ignore the advice because one day the girl you are in love with will certainly realize your worth, just put some efforts to make her realize that)
-All the best !!! :DS
mrinal
